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Overcoming Imposter Syndrome and Conquering Self Sabotage
In this episode, I discuss how to overcome imposter syndrome
By listening to this episode you will learn how to conquer self sabotage and fear.
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Okay, guys, here’s something I do not understand. We’re going to talk it through today. And that is why you guys, you guys are Wonder Women, okay? And yet you guys still struggle with imposter syndrome, fear of messing up fear of rejection, etc, and you’re letting those things. It’s one thing to fear them but it’s another thing to let them stop you from taking consistent action. And that’s what a lot of you are doing and I’ve done it before. I have those thoughts too. We all have new ceilings we need to break through.
But we’re going to talk a little bit about imposter syndrome and how do you handle that and let’s put some things into perspective. So if you’re here and you’re watching live comment live below. And what I first want to say is I was on a client call today and I work with exceptional women.
I work with women who are moms who have accomplished amazing things in their life who have you know, take good care of themselves like it really lucky to work with women I truly admire and in my zero to hero coach program and private coaching and things like that I work with women on booking more clients online, growing their online business. And it’s an honor.
And sometimes when I’m talking to these women, they see these they see these things in themselves and I’m like, What? What? I don’t get it.
From Reasons to Results
Okay. So for example, I have a client who has three kids birth three babies, okay. She has really been involved in her kids schooling and raising them. She had his looks exceptional. She’s takes amazing care of herself. She teaches her clients about health. Her clients get amazing results. She has gotten clients in the what they call the best shape of their life. She changed her life and their way that they respond to stress and things like that. And yet, I hear her say things like You know, I don’t, I’m worried about going live. And also, I just this is a huge thing. She’s overcome a very serious condition. And I am not I’m gonna remain anonymous. I didn’t ask her permission.
So, but she’s overcome something that is very, it could be very scary for a lot of people and so, and yet she’s afraid of going and talking on her phone to a camera. Okay, so if you guys are watching this and you are afraid to make a video, or speak or be rejected by someone you don’t know who’s looking at you through their phone, I want to let you know, that’s silly.
Okay. I can’t you don’t even have to look at the people who are rejecting you from the comfort of their own home on their phone. Okay, so this should feel okay. You got to get through this. You got to get past this fear of. I’m not good enough to go on camera. I don’t look good enough. I see these other coaches out there who look like this and they do it. This way and they say these things and they’ve been at it for this many years, etc comparison. It’s irrelevant. Those are just random things that you’ve observed.
Connecting with Your Clients
And then there’s actually coming on your phone to talk to your phone, connect with your ideal client, your person, your peeps, and you’ve got to separate those things. Okay. And here’s the other thing. You want to make sure that it comment Yes. below if you’ve had these thoughts, if you’ve had thoughts about like, you know, she looks a certain way or she does a certain way or she’s so experienced or whatever. Okay, comment. Yes. I’ve thought that before.
And I also want you to comment now, because that you can have those thoughts. You’re allowed to have those thoughts. You’re allowed to compare yourself, you’re allowed to judge yourself. I don’t know why you’d want to do that. But you’re allowed to do that. But here’s the thing. You don’t have to allow yourself to let that stop you from doing your day job, which is health. coaching, which is being your marketing coordinator, which is being your own administrative assistant, which is, you know, connecting with your ideal clients, which is talking about what you do and what you offer. That’s part of your day job. And you clock in and clock out and you don’t need to add to it.
Oh, but so and so does it this way or Oh, I’m, I don’t look good enough, etc. You hire somebody on your team, to be your marketing person, and they say, I don’t feel comfortable today about doing that.
The Importance of Consistency
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And I’m not going to do that you’d probably fire them
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if they did that consistently. So when it comes to your business, and you right now are your marketing coordinator and your you know, social media PR curator and all that and you don’t feel like doing it because you have a little bit of fear. You can have fear and still post something. You could be terrified and Do something, right. And that’s what you have to get good at as an entrepreneur, because you could say one thing of, I’m gonna wait until those thoughts go away or wait till I can really go through years of therapy or whatever I need to do to get rid of those thoughts. But they’re probably not going to go away, you know what they are going to do?
Get quieter, have less power over you, you become more confident through action, then you keep taking that action, you become more and more confident the thoughts go down and down and down.
That’s how it works. Not the other way around. It’s not let me fix all the thoughts and not be afraid and then I’ll start doing this. It’s, let me do it while I’m afraid and feel a little self doubt. And then that’s how I become more confident. So if you struggle with imposter syndrome, and comparing yourself, I want you to treat your business like a job and move forward regardless.
Change the Way You Think
But also why you penalizing yourself and why are you turning things about yourself into things that they’re not Not so in other words, for example, if you think I used to think a business coach has to wear blazers bonus fell over, I was gonna show you my polar fleece I haven’t here. That’s what I wear blazers and be very, very serious and had to be making millions of dollars before they coached anyone and whatever, right? But that’s not true. You can go open up your phone right now and find a ton of business coaches who don’t wear blazers, who you know, are happy at 500 K a year or 100 K a year or whatever, etc. Like there’s no rules. There’s no it’s all in your head.
And you guys know that watching this, but how but you’re letting those things dictate your business and your business success and your business actions. And your actions have to be a part of your business regardless of the fear. Okay? So comment what you struggle with when it comes to sphere. imposter syndrome, fear of rejection, etc. Because what I do want to offer you is, number one, I do have tons of mindset podcasts.
The Importance of Calls
And number two, let’s talk about it on a free strategy call. Because I work with so many women, I’d actually just spoke with somebody who said, I just don’t feel ready. I don’t feel ready to do those things. I don’t feel I feel like I need to do a couple more things first, and she’s been telling herself that for a long time, a very long time. And you can it at some point, you got to get real with yourself and say, is that the real reason that I need to? I’ve been telling myself I need to do a couple more things before I do that one big scary thing for like two years and I still haven’t done it. So I don’t know if that’s truly true.
Okay, so that’s the thing and and also, here’s what needs to be bigger than yourself. Doubt. Your desire to help people your desire to resonate with the people you’re supposed to resonate with. And your desire to make this your full time dream job and create your own reality through your daily actions and commitment to your business. That has to be much bigger than any fear.
I don’t feel like it or self doubt or whatever. And the only way you grow and overcome the feelings of imposter syndrome is by serving people by getting experience by showing up, right, you’re not going to overcome that by staying hiding, continuing to hide you’re not, that’s not helping anybody. And it’s, it’s not going to allow you to become more confident.
So I hope this helped. And I’ll talk to you guys soon. And if you do want to book that free strategy consult to talk a little bit more about this comment, call below and I’ll talk to you guys soon.
Resources
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- Health Coach Nation: Marketing, Business, & Mindset for Health Coaches
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