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The Limits on Limiting Beliefs
In this episode Lynnsey Robinson and I discuss the affects of limiting beliefs.
By listening to this episode you will learn how to overcome limiting beliefs.
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We are live. And I’m here today with a very special guest, Lynnsey Robinson and Lynnsey is a hypnotherapist, and she has a podcast called hi vibe in it. And I’m really excited to have her here today because we’re going to be talking about how you personally in your business, can use some of her techniques and tips to overcome your sales fears to feel better about what you’re charging. I know a lot of people have fear of like charging too much or I’m not worth it. I’m not enough. And so Lynnsey, first, I want to just have you give your background and we’ll go from there.
Okay, okay. Okay, I’m going to try to see every time I get asked this, I’m like, how do I say this in the easiest way possible, because I tend to take the long way around, but I’ll do my best. So when I was 19, we’ll start there, I read a book called journey of souls/and there’s another one called destiny of souls. And it’s basically this hypnotherapist guy who took his clients through
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past lives and life between life and all that stuff. And I was like, Oh, my God, what is this, and I like freaked out, I felt my like, whole energy shift. It’s almost like, as close as I can describe the feeling of this is what I’m supposed to do, you know, but I was 19. And I had just, you know, I, you do the same thing when you’re 19. You know, Woody, I mean, not nobody, but people don’t normally just turn their whole lives upside down at 19, to do the thing they want to do.
So it took me until I was about 27, when I had my first son, to really kind of ask myself, what do I want to do with my life? never asked myself that before. I guess I vaguely had an echo of a memory of hypnotherapy and knowing that I was interested in the subconscious and how our minds work. And I was like, Whoa, maybe I could do hypnotherapy. And immediately, I feel like we just talked about this immediately, I heard the voice that was like, um, but that’s for other people to do.
Like, you need to figure out what’s safe. You have a family now, like you have things you should be doing. And then another voice popped in. That was semi new to me. And it was like, but why can’t you like, why? why anyone who’s ever been a hypnotherapist or anyone who’s ever done this had to start with asking the same questions, probably.
And so I was like, What if I just made the call. So I did. And long story short, I graduated in 2013 with my hypnotherapy certification, and got trained in other areas that were some more specific in hypnotherapy, others, you know, just adjacent to hypnotherapy, like NLP EFT, I’m not sure if you’re familiar, but it’s the Emotional Freedom Technique, neuro linguistic programming, that sort of thing to really kind of give my practice well, a well rounded scope that I can help people with a lot of different modalities. So that’s what I’ve been doing for almost a decade now. And I could not be happier. I know I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing.
And there’s really nothing better than that. There’s no better feeling in the world, in my opinion, besides being a mom probably love that. Yes. So being able to listen to that inner voice that you had and say, You know what, I’m going to go for it. And being that you’re still young, and you, you know, had you had obstacles, you had a kid, you had to take care of your family. Right. So how did you because a lot of times I talked to coaches who are saying things like well, I just feel like who would want to listen to me.
And also when they are promoting themselves online, they feel like, I feel weird talking about myself, like I don’t, I have no problem, like recommending something to a friend or, like, you know, I don’t know just doing things at work at my day job. But then when it comes to my business, because I love my business I get so like offended easily if people don’t like my work.
So loaded question. But like, what would you say to somebody who’s feeling like, either number one I who would want to listen to me. And number two, I just, it feels weird to talk about myself. Even though I’m doing the thing that I’ve been guided to do. It just feels weird.
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So I think the key word in that question is like even or the key phrases, even though I know I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing. I feel weird, because that’s important to know that you’re doing what you’re supposed to be doing. And also to know that you get to change your mind. Like just because you’re doing your soul’s purpose now doesn’t mean that your soul’s purpose might not change or morph or evolve, you know, down the line. And so, you know, give yourself slack to know that you can evolve. My practice doesn’t look anything like it did when I started
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mainly because I went totally vegan.
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That’s a whole other can of worms that I didn’t know existed all different obstacles to jump through because I was just doing in person. So to touch on like, I don’t know, for me, I just knew I was. First of all, I knew that hypnotherapy was the hidden gem that people don’t like, don’t know they need, you know what I mean? Like, I know that about hypnosis, I know that everyone I talked to, will tell me that.
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So for me, the challenge was not do I know what I’m talking about, because I, I’m an Aries. So I’m super stubborn. I feel like I’m right in most situations. It can be a hindrance in my life. But in this case, in my job and my profession, I make sure that I know what I’m talking about, I make sure that I’m an expert. Now, anyone who owns a business is an expert, you just saw whether or not you believe you are is up to you, but you are an expert in whatever field that you’re in, you have enough knowledge in it that somebody needs to know this.
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So you know, a lot of people say like, just just act like the expert, just trust that you’re an expert. That’s hard for some people to do. And I understand that. It just becomes about like,
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Here’s a question. What do I wish people knew about what I do? What do I wish people knew? And everybody has an answer to that question? What do people need to know about my service about my expertise? And talk on that? Because that’s something that people are gonna want to hear?
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And then the short answer is like, you’re always going to be afraid of something. But if at some point, it’s just like, just do it, do it anyway. And be very pleasantly surprised when you push through the fear and you do it anyway. And you realize how many people for every one person that doesn’t appreciate you, there’s going to be five of your ideal client that really, really want to listen and are waiting for you to really step out of that. Shell and into the spotlight? Because they are waiting for you. They need you. You know what I mean? I don’t know. Does that mean at all? Yes. Because first of all, I love this phrase permission to evolve. Because, yeah, like,
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excuse me, I was thinking about this past year. And past couple years, like my podcast has evolved so much, there’s been some bad episodes, there’s a bad sound body, there probably still will be okay. But it’s evolved over time. It’s gotten better, it’s got more consistent, it will probably continue to get better, there will be ups and downs. Right? So being okay with like, I have a podcast, it’s not always going to be like 10,000,000% A plus plus, but I’m working on it, I’m evolving. And you can’t just start and skip that part.
Right. So that’s number one is no, you can’t skip it. And number two, when you were saying what do people need to know about my service? Or what do I wish people knew? You take yourself out of talking about you necessarily, but like, what do I wish people knew about hypnotherapy? Like this powerful tool that changed my life, and that can change so many people’s lives. And the third point I want to hone in on that you just said that was super valuable is for every one person that’s not into it, there will be people who are into it.
So when you’re closing yourself off to promoting yourself or putting yourself out there, because you’re scared of that one person, you’re also closing yourself off to wins and good things. So you get to pick, you stay comfortable, and you don’t put yourself out there and you also miss out on positive things, or you put yourself out there, you probably get some positive things that are very rewarding and some not so fast. Yeah, yeah.
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You know, it’s funny when you say like, and I talk about this a lot in the realm of the subconscious, and hypnotherapy and how our minds work is we want to stay the subconscious mind. Its job is to keep you safe, it to keep you alive, honestly, on the most primal level, we did that thing, it hurt us, we’re never going to do it again, whether it’s a relationship or you know, burning yourself on the stove, or whatever it is, if it’s a pain point, your subconscious will do everything in its power to prevent you from doing it again. Now, the problem is, the message can translate differently from the subconscious to the conscious and vice versa.
So if you know, logically, let’s take, let’s say, like, you did a launch in your business, and it went terribly, right. You know, logically speaking, there are things you could tweak and do better and things that you can take from this situation and from this experience to move forward in a better way, and to make the next launch better. But for some reason, in the subconscious, we’re just like, Oh, it’s the launch, never do this again. Now you might as well quit, you know,
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you might as well give up now. And and it’s it’s frustrating because, you know, consciously we want to use that conscious part of us that knows like, logically, rationally Come on, we’re not going to quit, it’s just a just a hiccup. But the subconscious mind is 90% of your mind. So if it doesn’t like something
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Good luck trying to do it again and feel good about it. I always say it’s comfortably uncomfortable because you say like, you can stay comfortable, but you’re not, you’re not comfortable. You’re just Safe, safe and bored and unfulfilled. That’s what you are. So if you’re able to take a little bit of a risk, and just for the sake of like, maybe I’ll be fulfilled, maybe I’ll be happy, maybe I’ll be successful, maybe I’ll be abundant. Maybe I’ll be able to provide for my family on a level that I was never able to be provided for.
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It’s risky, right? And it feels unsafe. Sometimes it’s because you had an experience that goes against what you think the feeling should feel like. And sometimes it’s just a fear of unknown. We say that we have a fear of failure. But more often than not with my clients, it’s a fear of success. It’s a fear of like, I don’t know what that looks like, what if I am terrible at success? What if I never have any time to myself? What if there’s expectations of me that I can’t fulfill?
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It’s just either way, failure or success? We’re afraid because we don’t know what it looks like, you know? Yeah, I kind of went off tangent, but it’s all important stuff. Yes. Yeah. So when you say that are? Well, one quote that really sticks out to me, and I think resonates with what you’re saying is I’d rather say, Oh, well, then what if, right? Like, you’d rather make a fool of yourself, or you’d rather put yourself out there doing what you love, and really enjoying it, and to look back later and be like, Oh, I wish I would have done that thing. And one of the things, too, that I want to ask you about when it comes to unconscious mind is how does somebody you know, let’s say.
Alright, maybe we’re going to do hypnotherapy. Or maybe we’re going to talk to somebody do talk therapy or whatever. But like, how does the everyday person start this journey with noticing their unconscious stuff? And starting to deal with it? Like, what can we do?
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Well, when you say unconscious stuff, I hear limiting beliefs, like when you try something, and you find yourself in this pattern of oh my gosh, you can shop so many ways overwhelm frustration, procrastination, perfectionism, self sabotage, they all are branches of the same tree, which is, I’m afraid.
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I’m afraid to do the thing. So when you notice that there’s also two types of fear, there’s an expansive fear. Like when I moved to California, when I was 20, I didn’t know what the heck I was doing. I was by myself, I moved, because I didn’t like the snow of Michigan, basically.
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But I also knew on a deeper level, that it was where I was supposed to be. And so in that way, it was expansive. It was like, Ooh, I’m on a new adventure, but it was terrifying. You know, like, I’m on the other side of the country by myself. So there’s an expansive fear Another example would be becoming a mother or moving into a new brand new house like it’s expansive, right? Then there’s the contracting fear, which is like, I don’t like this. This is not for my highest good and you’ll know the difference, you know, whether it’s an expansive or contracting fear if it’s a if it’s an expansive fear, then yes, absolutely. You should Sorry, my socks weird.
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are people gonna see this video?
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I’m like, all fidgety. Done.
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I probably will figure out a few times. But uh, if you Jose saying expensive versus contracting fear, and if it is an expensive fear, but it is still holding you back. You know, just because it’s expensive doesn’t mean it’s, you’re going to do it, it just means that it’s a it’s something you know, you should do, but you’re still afraid. So any limiting beliefs that you have any unworthiness, any money blocks, any, I mean, the list goes on and on any sticking point you have, from like, from where you are to where the goal is the end goal, any stickiness you have, can be rectified can be released can be shifted positively with hypnosis.
Now to get started, observe what the stickiness is, you know, I’m huge on like, your you, you should always start with observation, you know, be an observer Do not be the judge. Okay? That’s one of the hardest pieces for people is, oh, well, I shouldn’t feel that way. That’s stupid, you know, or I can’t believe this is that I’m doing this? No, no, we’re observing because you’re never going to get anywhere.
If you’re judging yourself the whole way. If you’re kicking yourself in the butt the whole way, it’s not going to feel good. And you’re going to go real slow. So observing, you know, oh, that doesn’t feel good. I wonder why. What could that be about? And then the next step is like,
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ask more questions to yourself. You know, hypnosis is so good because it goes to the source of every fear. It goes to the source of every experience that got lost in translation and is now has a meaning that it shouldn’t have, you know, and what I mean by that is like, throwing the baby out with the bathwater, just because I had one heartbreak. I’m never going to date another guy again.
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You know what I mean? That kind of thing. So if you have something like that, hypnosis is really good to give you a clear perspective and to what that experience was any limiting beliefs. Sometimes we need to know where they come from. But sometimes we don’t. Sometimes we just say, you know what, this is probably an outdated pattern that served me really well at one point and caused me to be where I am today. But I’m simply, you know, I’ve outgrown it, and it’s outdated and dusty, and I’m ready for new and shiny.
And hypnosis is really good for that. And we can go into kind of how hypnosis works. But yeah, I mean, just suffice it to say, like, you are completely, I always say like, you can’t really control what’s in your mind. Right now. What’s in your subconscious and what you’ve kind of carried with you all these years. But from this point forward, and from this moment forward, you are 100% responsible for what gets in there and what you allow what you allowed to keep to stay, you know? Yeah, um, yeah. Did I answer the question? I’m sorry? Yes, no, don’t.
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There’s so much that I want to say that it all just like tumbles out. And then I’m like, Well, is it? Gosh, I love it. A
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couple things. Number one, whenever I talk about mindset, I think the way I see limiting beliefs and heavy baggage, like, I heard, I was listening to a podcast or something. And they were like, yeah, we all have to carry this shit. We all have to carry so much shit and like, why?
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No, you don’t?
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Know You don’t?
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Yeah, so I was thinking, the way I see it as a visual is somebody carrying a heavy sled behind them. And it’s going to be every day, it’s going to feel so much harder than if you were a whole person fulfilled, happy, not limited by your limiting beliefs, able to observe your limiting beliefs able to have clarity about when they come up, and how quickly you can, you know, just being an observer, you’re in such a better starting state that you’re going to move so much faster than the person carrying this heavy sled behind them. And I think that why I focus so much on mindset work myself and with my clients, too. I mean, yes, we focus on strategy.
Yes, we focus on marketing, sales and whatnot. But if they’re coming to the program with this heavy sled, I’m like, Come on, guys, let’s go. And they’re like, exhausted, they’re carrying this heavy sled of limiting beliefs with them. Right? So we have to work on those. And so the other thing that you said to when it comes to being the observer, I love that because it’s the only I think so often we think we have to change a lot of things to get rid of a limiting pattern. But really, what what you have to do, it’s not what you have to do, it’s what you have to stop doing, which is,
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you know, identifying with that belief, we say everything is good or bad. And there’s a quote,
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nothing’s good or bad, but thinking makes it so right. So yeah, the only change you really I mean, the first step, obviously, there’s much more to it. And you all should talk to Lynnsey to help you with the deep stuff. But like you have to change, there’s a million different ways to think of one thing.
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That one thing to be good or bad at or neutral. And you don’t need to carry it with you if you don’t want to. Right. So it’s easier said than done. And that’s why I want to talk with you about unless you have a hypnotherapist. Exactly, exactly. About how does it work? Because I personally have done something called EMDR, which is, huh. The same assessment I movement, right? Yes, well held on to these things. I don’t know what they’re called. But you hold on to these things, and they vibrate or whatever, and your eyes start twitching.
And I did it just because I wanted to figure out a couple things. One was just like, this was years ago, it was like perfectionism and like, why I was so uptight. Right? Right. took me back to one very specific scenario where I as a child interpreted something that someone said to me that I had perfect. And as soon as I had that session, a couple sessions, it wasn’t a one session, but a couple sessions.
I don’t know what happened. I can’t explain how it worked. And, I can’t explain why it happened. But like it just never had the same. Yeah, ever again. So how does this work? Tell us about how hypnotherapy works. So there’s this cute little slideshow I made and paintbrush like back in 20 Oh, I don’t know probably 2013.
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So I always use this when I’m I use it when I kind of teach my clients how hypnosis works in any video that I do, but I’m going to just draw it so that it makes sense because there’s there’s a, I’ll just go through it. So if we can
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Let me get a new sheet here. Okay, so people listen to the podcast, go to haileyrowe.com/blogs, and you’ll be able to find Lindsay’s episode. And see. And you should be able to follow along with just my audio, but it helps me to keep it organized. If I, if I just draw it, you should be fine. It might show up backwards on the screen just heads up.
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Well,
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maybe I’ll just do it. So if you can just in mind, imagine sorry that your mind is a circle, right? Like we know it isn’t the mind isn’t quantifiable. Anyway, we’re not talking about the brain, we’re talking about the mind the energy frequency of the brain. So the mind Okay, so from zero to age eight, roughly 789. And I’m interested to find out when this happened to you, Hailey. But from from zero to like age eight, your mind is a completely open space, right? You really don’t have the ability to think logically or rationally yet, when we’re born, every baby is born with the fear of loud noises and the fear of falling. Okay, everything else is learned.
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Let that sit with you.
Fear of Failing
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The fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. That’s it. Those are instinctual fears. And of course, the fight or flight freeze drying is that babies Can’t they can’t conceptualize death. Yeah, you know, wow, it’s learned. It’s all learned fear of loud noises and the fear of falling is and you know, I guess you could say the fear of loud noises and the fear of falling root into the fear of danger, which could lead into death. But that’s what the baby will react to. That’s it. That’s its only fear. And of course, like I said, the fight or flight freeze response. It’s what what kind of encompasses the lizard brain, you know what I mean? Like the primitive mind,
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just for your own good. So yeah, like I said, from zero to eight, let’s just say eight. But it can be any range in there.
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Your mind’s completely open. So you throughout your life, up until age eight or nine, we’ll get what are called knowns into your mind, like, maybe you love chocolate, that would be a positive note, maybe you hate broccoli, that would be a negative, maybe you love hugs, that’s a positive. Maybe you don’t like, you know, being kicked out of God. That’s terrible. Those but positive and negative knowns will start to accumulate in the mind so that when you turn around 897, in that area, there will become like a barrier.
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This is what I’ve drawn so far, in case anybody wants to see. Okay, there’s a barrier here, right towards the middle, where’s my finger? Yep.
Conscious and Subconscious Thinking
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Which will separate the conscious and the subconscious. So the conscious mind, like I said, early on in this episode is 10. Well, more studies are making it smaller and smaller, but I’m gonna be generous and say, 10% of your mind, the subconscious is the other 90%. So all of your automatic behaviors, what really makes you who you are your emotions, your ability to drive and ride a bike and write and speak, you know, the ability to express yourself is a subconscious ability, because it is automatic
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10% of your mind. So when, when this critical mind gets formed, you then have more of an ability to
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rationalize, you have logic, you have reason you have your willpower in your conscious mind, and decision making skills. So critical thinking, conscious thinking is in 10% of your brain, that might be enough to really like, shake some people up. But the rest of it is subconscious. The rest of it is subconscious. The rest of who you are is subconscious. So of course, you’re going to have things in there, of course, you’re going to
Expectations from Experiences
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have experiences in childhood or in adolescence that stick with you and really affect your life in ways you don’t even know about because again, it is subconscious. It’s things that are happening in the background. Now just because you have it doesn’t mean you have to keep it. That’s the other thing. Once you recognize that maybe I do have some stuff and you’ll know everybody has stuff but you’ll really know if you find yourself repeating the same patterns over and over and of frustration and overwhelm and you know, all the things self sabotage, you know, that kind of thing. And hypnosis, what hypnosis does. So getting back to it here, let me just make a few notes. So I know where I am.
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Okay, so when you have a thought, like give me a business goal, just throw one out that you hear a lot. Yeah, a lot of my clients want to hit their first 10 k month. Okay, that’s a beautiful one. Mm hmm.
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So 10 K,
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when you have a thought like, oh, it would be so cool to have a 10 k month I want 10 k a month. This thought will then check in with the critical filter, which acts again as the bodyguard, right? The bouncer at the club that decides whether the thought gets in and becomes automatic. The critical filter or the critical mind really decides what gets in and stays okay. Usually high incidences of danger and and not necessarily trauma, but extreme examples of experiences will stay
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In the subconscious, because it needs to take notes of what not to do, does that make sense to keep you alive to keep you breathing? Again, not happier fulfilled just
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so 10 a month, you think the thought it goes to the critical filter which checks in with the, with the subconscious mind? And if there’s anything in there that goes against this thought, I mean, it could just simply be we’ve never done this before, like, What are you thinking? It will kick it right back out. And you are now using your willpower alone 10% of your mind to achieve the goal. No wonder we feel like we do no wonder it’s feels so hard, you know.
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So there could be many reasons for this. And this is part of what I do with hypnosis is what are these reasons in your subconscious that this isn’t? This is a bad idea? And how do we get the subconscious on the same page as your conscious goals so that you have 100% of your mind automatically working towards your goals, your mind is a goal machine, it is constantly achieving goals in the background, that you don’t even probably are aware of you are 100% successful at being exactly where you are right now.
Because your subconscious, knows what to expect, and knows what to do for you based on what you tell it and what you give it and what’s in there already. Anyway, so with hypnosis, we can take the idea of 10 k months. And that’s really what we do is we with this with the process of hypnosis is we’re creating
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a bit of passageway between the conscious and subconscious, we’re creating a passageway through the critical filters so that we don’t have to check in we don’t have to get permission necessarily, we can just go in, it’s like tipping the mounts or $100. And just going in the club. It’s like a nice, it’s a quicker way to get in there. And then in a in a nurturing, relaxed, comfortable state, we’re able to really teach and guide the subconscious to understanding why this is such a good thing why this is what we want to believe why this is actually our new known our new script. Does that make sense?
Yeah, I love the analogy you gave to and to me, I also had a thought like I thought I think about some of the Met guided meditations I’ve done where they’re like, you know, think back like, I don’t know, be your future self and then look back younger self and tell her she needs to hear and to me that is that related at all to to from what
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I’m scared what you’re gonna say, I listen. There are two important things I want to say one,
Hypnotherapy and Your Thoughts
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every single human. If you’ve ever fallen asleep or woken up from sleep, you are an expert in hypnosis because you have to pass through. You have to go from conscious into subconscious which is that altered dreamy floaty state right before sleeping right before waking up into unconscious. And when you wake up backwards, you go from unconscious through subconscious into conscious.
So you’re going in and out of hypnosis, when you go to sleep, you’re also going in and out of light stages of hypnosis every single day, even in your conscious outer awake life. When you’re reading a book and you forget, you know, like you said are on our podcasts or she was on our podcast, when she was like when I’m in the zone and time does isn’t a factor and I there’s no sense of time.
And I’m just here right here in the moment that is an altered state. So you are in in, in a state of hypnosis. Now. Guided Meditation is a light state of hypnosis, anytime someone’s talking to you and guiding you through because meditation traditionally, is an altered state. Yes, but it is a clearing right it is a it is a getting guidance from silence and getting clarity from silence now in it anytime someone’s guiding you or taking you somewhere or or loading you into the state. It’s hypnosis. So sorry. You probably have been in hypnosis many, many times and not even knowing it.
But that’s good, because you’re already an expert. And so working with a hypnotherapist, know that going into it. You already know how to do this, your body biologically knows what this is. It’s just now we’re using it with intention. Now we’re using it when you want to use it for your benefit for your success. yada yada, yada. It’s beautiful. Got it? Okay, so you can get little hints of it. But really having that intention behind it. Working with somebody that’s a skilled professional is a good idea. And we’re still professional. Yes, please. Oh,
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four, we’re looking for a good hypnotherapist. Um, so hypnosis hypnotherapy as a as a category of job I guess what was the word I’m looking for? As a business. You feel Thank you. Oh, my God. Words are hard. Sometimes. hypnotherapy as a as a field is not regulated federally, it’s only regulated state to state. So depending on where you are in the United States, and that’s just here in the in the in the US. Now if you’re in Canada, Australia, Great Britain, really anywhere else. They’re going to have different set of regulations, as far as the US goes not regulated federally, so if I wanted to, I could call myself
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adopter of hypnosis. Even though that is not a thing, it’s just not a thing. No one can have a degree of any kind or a PhD or a doctorate in hypnosis, you can have a diploma, you can have a certification, you can be certified in this work, but you cannot, you know, so I would say do your research.
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Do your research, ask them what kind of experience they have asked them specifically, if they’ve had experience with what you want help with?
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Yeah, so I mean, there’s really no it, I actually have a YouTube video about how to pick the perfect hypnotherapist. And it’s ask them their experience, get the vibe, you know, like, if you’re talking to them, and, and you just aren’t feeling it, like listen to your inner guidance. And it’s probably even if they’re a great professional and a great hypnotherapist, if they’re not your type of person, you’re just not going to have as much success. So make sure that you vibe well with the person, which is true for really anything honestly.
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Make sure you’re vibing well with them and just get a feel for it and just ask them if they have experience with what you actually want help with, you know, I it’s not my favorite thing to work with smoking cessation. So I don’t usually take smoking cessation clients.
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So I have no problem if somebody asked me like, do you work with this? and Leon? Yeah, not really, you know, I just it’s not, I can’t do my best work unless I feel aligned with your goal, your objective? And so I will recommend somebody who I trust for that. But yeah, I would I would definitely, unfortunately, it’s it’s the task of the client to do the research and find out who the person is and whether or not they vibe with them. And if they’re skilled in that area, you know? Yeah. So who what, what kind of goals do you feel like you help us with? I have, it’s I help with female entrepreneurs, ambitious women, who just, oh, i and this is what I hear all the time.
And that’s how I know they’re an ideal client. Like I’ve done everything. And I just can’t like, I feel like I just need a little push to get over whatever this mindset stuff is. Like, usually they’ll know it’s a mindset block, but not always, you know, if they come to a hypnotherapist, they’re open to the idea that there’s something in their mind that’s holding them back. But they don’t always know what that is. And that’s okay. I want to be clear that you don’t have to know what it is. You just have to know that it’s stopping you and you don’t like it. And we can help you.
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But yeah, female entrepreneurs who are ready to just clear the gunk, you know, do you remember that? I do. I do. Yeah. nearly done.
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Oh, yeah. Yeah, I put the backpack down. Yeah.
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Okay. And so, by the way, if anybody’s listening and you do know, somebody who wants to stop smoking, I actually have a client right now who’s a marketing client. He does, specifically for nice notice. That’s why I mentioned it. That’s so funny. I know.
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He’s, uh, I mean, his success rate. I think it’s, I can’t remember. But when he told me but it’s like, it’s like 98 percenters. I mean, it’s like ridiculous. So if you can, is one of the most successful.
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I would say hypnotherapy in general, like, I’ve never had anybody be like, yeah, I didn’t get what I came for it. Like, it’s just, I just haven’t had it. Never. But I think smoking cessation is so successful. And it’s so common, like, if somebody goes to a hypnotherapist? chances are it’s for smoking cessation, because that’s the only
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one of the only ways that people mainstream, you know,
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people in what am I trying to say? So it’s the main thing that people when you hear hypnotherapy, they’re like, Oh, yeah, maybe they were losing weight or, or, you know, stopping smoking. So, it’s funny that I mentioned that is so funny, because I don’t usually do that. But my higher wisdom told me to say it.
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Yeah. And, um, you know, I mean, I think, anything you can do for your personal development and mindset, something like this working with Lindsay, that is going to benefit your business in so many ways. You don’t even see the direct connection, but like she said, Would you rather be moving forward with 10% of your full capacity or the full capacity?
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So we what would you say to somebody who, maybe they
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have identified that they struggle with a specific limiting belief, they become aware of it, they are starting to kind of challenge themselves to do little things to test that belief, whatever, right? But they’re still like, Okay, I think I have this sense of false positive, like, I’m just trying to cover it up. Like I keep touching. I’m just trying to put positive affirmations and it’s not really working. Is there any advice you’d give them to truly get to the root aside from hypnotherapy?
Affirming Affirmations
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Yes, how much time do you have? Well, first of all, you mentioned affirmations, so
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People who throw out affirmations because they don’t feel right are probably not wording them correctly. And we can talk about that if you want. But there are two ways to really word them, it’s either I am or I am becoming, if you’re saying I am earning 10 k a month and you’re not earning 10 k a month, you’re going, your subconscious mind will know that, okay, and you’re using 10% of your mind to drill it into the subconscious, which isn’t going to accept it. So you’re just gonna feel like a liar and a fraud.
Literal and Inferential Types of Individuals
Some people can do that, like there are two, there are two types of affirmations for two types of people. If you’re a literal person who takes it very literally, meaning you just need face value, you don’t need a lot of vague language or metaphors, or
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you don’t need a lot of detail. With the inferential person you do. So you’re speaking very bluntly, very to the point but you take in, like I need as many metaphors you can give me like the bouncer in the club is a good idea is a good example of a of an inference, you know, and using metaphors and things like that. So they would be the type of people if you take in, if you find yourself overthinking about what someone really meant by what they said, you’re probably an inferential person.
If the wheels are always turning, you’re probably an inferential. So you would probably benefit from saying I am becoming or I am ready, right? You could say I’m ready to earn 10 k a month, that is something your subconscious can get on board with and something that will work quicker. Okay, so that’s just a quick thing on affirmations I am becoming versus I am, whatever feels better to you is what you’re supposed to say.
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And then the other what would I tell? What was the other question? What would I tell somebody who to go deeper with it? If they feel like oh, that’s baloney? So you already answered it by saying I am becoming? Yeah, well, so you can do to kind of work with your subconscious rather than against it.
The Journey of Goals
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There are a lot of things I tell my clients to do affirmations is is not really something that we do a lot of because I do what’s called a narrative which is writing out a future journal entry
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based on you already having the goal so writing about
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what what the goal was what how you did it, what how you feel like we forget to put in emotion guys, like don’t forget to put an emotion you need to attach as much emotion to this achievement as possible. Because that’s really what you’re getting any goal you can think of, you’re really going for the emotion behind it, even abundance, even money, right? What is that money going to get you it’s going to get you freedom, it’s going to get you relief, it’s going to get you the ability to care for your family and provide for them. It’s it gives you a feeling so you’re really chasing the feeling. And that’s what you need to attach to for sure.
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What, what else did I do? So narrative, the future journal entry, where you’re really honing in on how you feel now that it’s done, what’s possible for you now, and I and I do this a lot in my hypnosis is what would I what would my future self say? I call it the excellent self. So the excellent self is really the version of you that has the thing that has access the life, the love, whatever it is, and, and really stepping into them, as much as possible, you know, get really clear on who that person is the traits they have, how they carry themselves, their energy, the kind of clothes they wear, what they eat for breakfast, I mean, as detailed as you can get.
And then really just, once you have it anchored in and you really have a good idea of who this person is, what do they have that I already have? That’s important.
Decision Making Processes
And what would they tell me about this situation? What is their decision making? Like what are they you know, tapping into your excellent self? As much as you consciously can, you know, without hypnosis, there’s a lot you can do on your own. But unless you know it, for some people, that’s enough, but for other people, people that come to me, it’s like, well, I’m only using 10%. So I’m going to need to go deeper. And so that’s some things you can do on your own that I think really help that really gets you farther faster. And then if it’s still trouble if it’s still giving you that stickiness, then yeah, call me and we got this. Love it.
Okay, well thank you so much for being on the show today. And I think that that those couple of exercises the future self journal entry, I love asking what does your future self do or have that I already have and how can I continue to match my future self? I am versus I am becoming when it comes to your affirmations. I love all of that. So how can people get in touch with you?
Check out your podcast and get to know you a little better. So I have a podcast like she said called hi vibe in it. You can go to high vibe in it calm, to find ways to listen but it’s really anywhere you listen to podcasts on Instagram. I’m at Lindsay Robinson it’s just a weird spelling. It’s like Lynn with an se why so Lindsay Robinson same on Facebook I have a Facebook group called inspired femme printers for free
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female entrepreneurs to really get their mindset clear. And I’m actually doing I don’t know when this is gonna air but I’m doing a live stream event this week for mindset detox and really ringing in the new year with some really healthy practices and things to really clear out the clutter.
About Lynnsey Robinson
Lynnsey is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Intuitive Coach who specializes in helping ambitious women all over the world tap into their subconscious mind to clear the limiting beliefs and programs keeping them stuck, and create lasting positive change. Through her expertise in subconscious programming and the power of the mind, her 1:1 hypnotherapy programs help her clients connect to this inner power to manifest all the abundance and success that life has to offer.
Resources
- Complimentary Business Consult
- Health Coach Nation: Marketing, Business, & Mindset for Health Coaches
You Can find Lynnsey on the following: Membership, Digital Program, and her Podcast.
