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Hello, today, we are going to talk about what starting a business truly is, in an analogy form. So if you are new coach and you’re feeling like you’re on that entrepreneurial roller coaster or you don’t know who you are yet, as a business owner, or you’re feeling like, you’re still figuring things out, which by the way, you’re going to always feel that way. So get used to it right? Even when you’re successful, there’s going to be new ceilings, new things to learn. And I just wanted to share this with you, because it really got me thinking about my clients, and the people that I talked to who are starting a business and they feel like things are going terribly wrong, when really, things are going terribly, right.
Like they are doing the process, which is trying something, failing at it, learning from it, moving on refining it, getting it to work, then hitting another roadblock, then fixing it again, etc., etc. and the cycle continues. And nothing has gone wrong. That’s exactly what starting a business is it’s trying something failing, continuing to improve. Now, is there educated ways you can take calculated risks and fail smartly and learn from your mistakes?
Yes, but nothing’s gone wrong. If you’re not getting the results that you want yet, it just means a couple things, it means you either don’t believe in yourself yet enough to produce the result you want. You’re not taking responsibility for it, and you’re putting responsibility on other external things, or you it’s math, it’s like, oh, something’s wrong with the copy or not enough people have seen it, or it’s something very logical that you can fix.
So any business problem is going to relate to either your beliefs and mindset about it, the extra you taking responsibility off yourself and putting blame on something external from you, which will for sure kill your results. Or the third thing, which would be, like I said, just a math problem, which is the easiest thing to solve.
Tips to work through obstacles in your business
So. I want to give you this analogy, when you are if you are somebody who has big goals, maybe your goal in your coaching business is to have your first 10k month or to finally you know, take the leap and invest in a coach and invest in yourself, or whatever it is, I want to let you know that when we set big goals for ourselves, you’re going to start and you’re going to probably feel some momentum, and then you’re going to get punched in the face by either an obstacle or something in your personal life goes awry.
And you have to, you know, change course or attend to that. So. It slows you down or whatever it is. And you most people don’t anticipate that they’re just like, they think there’s going to be this perfect time. It’s gonna be magical. And. It’s their fault if something happens, and you know, and they get punched in the face. They have to change that and resist that versus welcoming in the punches in the face. So instead of acting like it’s not going to happen, anticipate and be like, Oh, they’re here we go, I’m starting a business, I’m doing something that’s really cool that most people don’t try, I’m doing something, that’s my dream job.
And so naturally along the way, I’m gonna have to probably earn it, I’m gonna have to probably get punched in the face a couple times to keep learning and growing. And that is part of it. So. It’s not a problem. If you get punched in the face. It is a problem. If you’re actually getting punched in the face in your real life. That is a huge problem. But if you get punched in the face, metaphorically, by obstacles, it’s not a problem.
And. When you can anticipate that and just be like, oh, of course. Here we go. Here’s the first obstacle, I got my first no, or I had my first no show on a discovery call, or I totally bombed that discovery call or that Facebook Live. Just be like, okay, self, this is natural. And. At that point, this is really important. So it’s not the punch in the face that destroys your results. It’s how you respond to the punch in the face.
So if you get the punch in the face, and you use that as an opportunity to not believe in yourself, or to feel like take it personally, and stop continuing to try things you are missing out. Versus if you take the punch in the face. And you use it as an opportunity to believe in yourself more moving forward. Now you are going to succeed. So here’s what happens. Let’s say you, you know, start trying a lot of different things you start making offers, you start posting on social media, you start getting clear on your niche, you create an offer that you think is really good.
And you go out there and nobody responds or you have a discovery call and somebody says no, some people will take that as a Oh, things are going wrong. I’m doing this wrong, and I you know, need answers outside of me. I need to fix this. And they start to try to control the world. around them, they start to be like, you know, like, they’re very tense, they don’t believe in themselves so that when you don’t believe in yourself, you have to control the external world a lot to be like, I need this to form conform to what I want, and I need you to act how I want.
I need you to say yes, and yada, yada. Then you’re in this needy space, you’re in this uptight space. And you’re probably also not as excited to go forth, and fail again, and keep learning and growing from that. So you also kind of stop yourself and hold back. So not only are you not trying as many things, because you feel like you got punched in the face, and you’re making it mean something about you, and let it lead to self doubt. But then you’re also trying to control everything else outside of you around you, which you can’t do. Because you don’t believe in yourself. So you want the world to conform to what you need it to be. Versus if you had a no, or a bomb, launch, or whatever.
And you’re like, you know what, this means I’m getting closer. This is something that will allow me now to reinforce my belief in myself, because I put myself out there, I was willing to feel failure, I was willing to try this. Here’s what I know works, here’s what I know, doesn’t work. Here’s what I want to try moving forward to keep improving. And you trust that even when you fail, or you do something that you feel like was a quote unquote, waste of time, you are way further along than if you’ve never tried it. If you never was willing, we’re willing to feel that feeling.
And when you build that resilience up, and you recover very quickly, and you use it as a reason to build trust within yourself, like I know I can do hard things. So bring it on, I was made for this, let’s keep going. That’s when you become a successful entrepreneur. And that’s when you’re in control of your results. Because when you don’t need to control other people or the external world around you, and you know that your success is inevitable by what you do. What you choose to think and how you learn and how you grow, you are going to have a much more pleasant journey. And you’re going to be way more resilient on your business journey. And here’s a couple other things that are important.
As you’re going about your journey getting punched in the face. You don’t need the support of other people, a lot of you, it would be nice to have the support of other people, it would be nice if your spouse understood you and your business and what you’re going through. But it’s not a need. Right. So when you support yourself, and you trust yourself, and you know that you have your own back, and you are the author of your business journey.
You’re going to come from a much different place, you’re going to feel more energized, you’re going to feel more in control and empowered. Or when you think all the answers are outside of you, and you need permission to take the next step and your business or try something. That’s another way to disempower yourself and not believe in yourself. So instead, you have to say you know what I know I want to try this, and I know this would probably improve my business. So I’m going to try it, I’m gonna see what happens and I’m willing to learn from it, I’m willing to, you know, see if it doesn’t work, because then I’m one step closer to knowing what does work.
And you have to have that willingness. And you have to, that’s how you build trust within yourself to so that you’re no longer reliant on gurus or you know, blogs, or whatever. It’s not to say don’t use that stuff. Obviously, I’m a business and marketing coach. So I think coaching is very valuable, and can help you avoid, you know, some costly mistakes. But the point is still that you have to learn how to build trust within yourself. And those things can help guide you. And those things, you can take what’s helpful. But at the end of the day, it’s up to you.
And. If you’re not willing to feel the feelings, get punched in the face, on your spot as a successful coach, then you’re going to have a hard time. If you’re trying to avoid and get it all right and do it all perfectly and avoid any discomfort or mistakes, you will never grow you will be stagnant. Okay. So. That is my message for today. Is be willing to be up for that. Know that nothing has gone wrong. It’s going exactly how it should go.
And. It’s going exactly how it should go because it’s going that way. And. You know that on the other side of that failure and getting punched and wounded, you’re going to be stronger. And. You’re going to learn from it. And. You’re going to grow. And. You becoming a stronger person allows you to be a stronger business owner, stronger coach, etc. So. If you’re if you can’t do it for yourself right now, do it for your future clients.
Do it for the future of your business. Do it for your mission. Okay. But. Obviously. You know, build that trust within yourself and really do it for the experience of the growth and have a strong, compelling reason why you’re doing this. So. That when you get punched in the face, it’s not as hurtful. It’s kind of like, well, yeah, this is part of bringing my mission to life, I’m probably going to have to take a couple punches, right? So I hope that this helps you with your mindset and your business with your resilience with your consistency.
And anytime you think why bother? Just remember that no matter what, every failure that happens, on the other side, you’re going to be stronger and further along than you would be had you not taken that action. So. Thanks for listening. I’ll talk to you guys soon. If you need support with your mindset. And I shouldn’t even say need if you want support with your mindset because you don’t need support with your mindset. You should just maybe want extra support with your mindset. Feel free to reach out feel free to schedule a console at haileyrowe.com And I’ll talk to you guys soon.
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